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The responsibility for success is always on the individual. There is no room for blame. However, the type of support from the family in tandem with the life coaches is a key to success.
The number one predictor of success is directly tied to the young adult’s ability to take self-efficacy, grit, executive functioning, and turn it into daily habits and results. While parents, coaches, and programs can assist in this process, in the end, the responsibility is on each young adult.
It starts with teaching how to think differently so they will intuitively know how to do differently.
It is founded deeply in intrinsic motivators, self-efficacy, self-determination, grit, resiliency, positive psychology, flow theory, daily habits of success, and much more.
One of the underlining challenges that plague many of our young adults is that they tend to still hold a strong child-like dependency for monetary, emotional needs and for their parents to solve problems for them.
Based on self-reported outcome questionnaires over several years, the number one predictor of failure that can hinder or delay success — a parent who consciously or subconsciously keeps sending messages to their young adult child that may include:
A lack of belief that they cannot work through challenges on their own.
A parent needs to keep their child dependent upon them for their personal needs.
A young adult who openly states, I like my parents paying for everything. Why would I want to do this on my own?
Since follow up questionnaires started tracking self-reported outcomes in 2013; there is an 85% to 92% success rate based on the following: (numbers vary based on self-reported surveys from the student and each parent or family team member who may see things differently than others reporting on the same outcome).
Parents who learn simple, yet empowering, communication with their young adult child end up with sustainable long-term successful outcomes.
There must be a slow release of new responsibility that is young adult-focused based on age and current goals. This concept is simple in that yes, the professor in college might have done something wrong, but the real question is, did the student do their homework? Did the employee show up for work on time? Did the young adult make and keep an appointment?
There is a time-based process that can’t be cut short for the deeper internal roots to grow deep enough along with the power of habit to kick in. At times, a parent will think of their child, much like a broken-down car. Take the car to the mechanic, they fix it, and everything works again. This is not a realistic expectation.
The success rate drops to a very low chance of success when parents cannot change to empowerment language.
For the families that need it, there are some great resources available!
A number of video resources are available by clicking HERE.