Shoulda’ woulda’ … Or maybe just coulda.’
“I should never have let her go out with that boy.”
“I should have set more clear boundaries.”
“I should have told my son I loved him more often.” …
“Stop should-ing on yourself.”
This phrase coined by psychologist Clayton Barbeau and is frequently utilized by Albert Ellis, one of the founders of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT,) is common in the mental health field.
How often do we either look back on our past through the lens of “should have,” while conversely seeing our future through a […]